Being single in 2019 is so hard – especially for the 30+ crowd. Like if you weren’t lucky enough to find your soulmate in high school or college, then you’re stuck in this weird lane of uncertainty. For me, it’s a never-ending cycle of short-lived happiness followed by short-lived pain. But for some reason, I keep doing it.
My advice to me is simple: you’ll know.
I have ignored red flags and overlooked behaviors in a person for the sake of finding love. And I have regretted it every time. I would never admit that while it’s happening though. It’s almost like self-sabotage. My thought process is stupid: I know this isn’t going to work, but maybe if I keep trying…
I guess what I need to be telling myself is: STOP TRYING – real companionship is effortless.
There is always a gut feeling. Listen to it. Even if you can’t put a reason to why your nerves are saying “no” – just take a step back. The universe will do favors for you if you let it. When the right person comes along, you won’t have to try. #DailyDEBO
Setting an intention can be hard. Especially on the days where inward focus seems pointless, but those days are usually the days we need it most. After all, intentions don’t always suggest a specific outcome, but rather, they acknowledge a plan. In the world of medicine, “intention” is defined as: the healing process of a wound. Let that sink in.
Whether you give yourself a few words of affirmation or pledge to actually scratch something off your to-do list, I always start with a few moments every day to remind myself who I am (or who I am becoming) and what wounds need healing.
Sure, “run errands,” “do laundry,” or “clean house” are valid intentions, especially for people like me who literally. cannot. think in a messy house. But more often than not, I can accomplish these surface-level tasks while also setting a deeper, more self-aware intention to “become more grateful,” or “acknowledge a suppressed/reoccurring thought” or “practice self-care.”
Here are a 5 ways to hold yourself accountable to your daily intention:
- write it down on your notepad at work, in your journal, or anywhere else you look frequently
- post it to social media – the comments and likes will surely remind you throughout the day
- leave yourself a post-it note
- set a reminder in your phone so your intention pops up as a notification
- share verbally with a friend